The Reverend Jerry Falwell, Jr. has dirty laundry that all the public is seeing right now. Normally I would say that this is nobody’s business, however, since he makes a living as an educator of the Southern Baptist faith, it opens the door for some commentary.
I am a very sex-positive person with the belief that if the participants are consenting adults, have at it. If you like to watch your spouse with someone else, good for you so long as all participants are on board and willing. However, when you are being hypocritical and publicly espousing one belief and not living by those values, shame on you.
I have no doubt that Falwell and his wife have a healthy, robust sex life that involves others at times. Kudos because keeping things sexy in a long-term relationship requires creativity and openness. But I find Falwell to be cowardly for throwing his wife under the double-decker bus by his characterization of the events. Also they went a bit too young for their partner. Hooking up with a 20-year-old is legal, but the power dynamics are definitely skewed. But who knows what the truth is? Just the three people at the heart of the allegations.
However, where there is smoke, there is fire and I guarantee you that there are some other third-parties out there who either will not or cannot speak up due to certain non-closure agreements.
I chuckled at his Instagram photo with the other woman where they were both “in costume” because to me, this is a guy having a good time. Not a leader of the Southern Baptist community, but a regular guy being silly. However, once again, his defense was hypocritical and not truthful. That was alcohol in that glass and his familiarity with the woman was palpable. He wants to live a life of “Do as I say, not as I do.” I really don’t like folks like that.
Perhaps this is the opportunity for Falwell to leave his father’s legacy and live his life on his own terms. He has a law degree and enough white privilege to segue way to perhaps more of a non-secular conservative profession. The question is whether he can stop the hypocrisy and acknowledge who he really is – an alcohol-drinking swinger. LOL.
But seriously, it takes a lot of courage to live life honestly and let people see you for who you really are. I question his courage.
As for his wife, I wish for her the gift of courage. The courage to stand up and tell her truth. The courage to not let her husband hide behind her or blame her. The courage to look people in the eye and be true to herself. And peace, I hope that at the end of all this she finds peace.
Update: 8/30/2020 – yep, more smoke.