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What Would You Do?

Today was a crazy day. I am officially on vacation for the Labor Day weekend and it is off to a full moon wacky start. However, one event has created an ethical dilemma. What would you do? Sit back and let me set the scene.

I was home participating in my Zoom Toastmasters meeting. I was minutes away from giving a speech when I hear a woman screaming and a dog fight. Since I was set up right by my window, I peered out to see a young 20-something woman fending a dog away from her pit bull mix. The aggressing dog has no leash. The dogs are the same size. The girl is trying to keep the dogs separated but the unleashed dog won’t back off.

The unleashed dog’s owner has another dog, a husky mix, on a harness leash. He is the same age as the girl. He does not run over to help. He calls the dog, eventually goes over. Meanwhile the girl is screaming for help, picking up her dog, using her body to block the unleashed dog. She is in a panic. The guy gets his dog and walks off. Her dog drags her to the ground. She is frantically fighting for control. It was awful. The husky mix is not helping and egging the situation on – off course, his pack member is having all the fun.

The guy has no leash or collar for the loose dog. She carries her dog upstairs to her apartment. As she does, I run to my door. I call to her and tell her I saw it all. She pops her dog into her apartment and comes over. She is shaking all over. I tell her I am in the middle of a Zoom, but I will come over when I am done.

Between that, the power knocking off my internet less than 10 minutes from the meeting start and a census taker earlier, I was not operating at my peak – LOL – but my speech turned out pretty good. I won a speech contest! Right before I started, I heard her yelling at the guy – they live on the same floor….it lasted less than a minute.

Anyway, back to the ethical dilemma. I pop downstairs (with my mask on) to check on my neighbor. Poor thing. What a morning for her. Her sweat pants are covered in dirt, she broke 4 nails and one was still bleeding. She had just woken up and this was the shit show that started her day.

She had already called property management who told her to call animal control (AC) and the police. The police were kind. She was reluctant to call AC because she didn’t want them to seize the dog. Poor thing. I asked her what the guy said. She said he blew her off, didn’t apologize.

I told her that property management should be enforcing their pet rules. Seizing animals is not the only remedy for AC and that it would not be her fault if the guy got in trouble. He would be getting in trouble because of his actions, not hers. Then I told her I heard their other confrontation several months ago and described it to her dumbfounded face. She tells me after that incident she got a better collar and leash for her dog and she tries to time her walks to avoid the guy. I told her that I am there for her as a third-party witness. I will vouch for her and to please let me know how I can help.

So now you are wondering where is the ethical dilemma in all this? Here it is: I work with this guy. He is in a different department and I don’t see him in my day-to-day routines. I didn’t tell her this. She said he left right after the incident. I knew it was because he had to get back to work.

I am really disappointed with this guy, First of all, why no leash? We live in an apartment complex. That dog needs a leash for its own safety. The dog is skittish. When I have come across them, the dog barks at me and runs away.

Second disappointment: no apology. WTF. His dog caused this girl pain and anguish and an apology is simple common courtesy. It is his neighbor for crying out loud.

What do I do? Do I MYOB? Do I go talk to him next week and basically said WTF? If I do talk to him, I will tell him that I talked to her. Should I call property management and tell them I saw the whole thing and they need to get their heads out of the ass?

Of course, this is huge juicy work gossip and it is absolutely killing me not to say anything, but I won’t. Not right now. I need to give this some time and I need your feedback and dialogue so I can get this off my chest. Ugh, my tongue is bleeding from biting it. Thank goodness I won’t be back in the office until next Tuesday.

So what say you? What would you do?

Her dog looked similar. Photo by Alexandru Rotariu on Unsplash

Comments on: "What Would You Do?" (12)

  1. I w like t say anything to him , but I would tell property management

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  2. I moved last week and there are 4 homeowners in our little association. Two of us have dogs. In my opinion, the dogs should be leashed at all times whenever they’re on our common property areas. I would never have my Charlie outside without a leash unless we are on a designated off leash trail. I also wouldn’t expect a dog to stay on a front step without a leash, which the other dog owner seems unable to understand.
    No attacks, but I was doing a zoom kickboxing class and Charlie was sleeping on his bed near the open window Monday morning when the neighbor’s dog ran up on my front step causing Charlie to bark his head off. The woman came up and I told her to keep her dog on a leash and off my front porch. She stood there expecting me to stop what I was doing and have a conversation. Nope. My house is my private domain and I should be able to leave my window and shades open without interruption. She went to a third neighbor to complain that I yelled at her. The other two neighbors said she was wrong and the dogs must be leashed. That’s my very long winded way of saying yes, you should say something.

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    • I agree with you on your story! Leashes protect everyone. I think if I go to property management, my story is not just about the girl, but my 2-3 encounters with the dog. Timid animals can turn aggressive when cornered and it always barks fiercely at me as it scrambles to escape. I am a pet person, so it’s not like I am afraid of it. I’ll think some more about it over the weekend…I want to remove the co-worker wrinkle from my thought process and see how that goes.

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  3. My take on it is: say something to the neighbour, leave the co-worker out of the equation.
    The fact the guy works with you has nothing to do with what happened that day. So I would certainly not approach him at work with this problem. If you want to talk to him because you saw the altercation and have already noticed his dog could be problematic because he is skittish, then talk to your neighbour. As a neighbour. Forget that you’re co-workers.

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  4. Property management AND animal control. He clearly doesn’t care and would not be open to your intervening. Next time his dog might seriously or even fatally hurt another dog or it’s owner.

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  5. I might talk to your co-worker and tell him you saw the incident from the window. Without berating him you might suggest that he leash the dog when he takes it out. But be careful not to blame him – I don’t think that will really do anything but get him defensive. Of course, you know the guy better than I and can probably guess his reaction.

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    • The problem is I don’t know him well and he avoids me whenever possible. Today we arrived home at exactly the same time and he waited in his car until I got up the stairs. Maybe a little visit to his work area is in order…


  6. I’m really late to this conversation, but I would advise the neighbor to contact Property Man. and AC, and that you will be happy to back her up. If you don’t know this guy and he waits in his car as you said to avoid you, then you owe him nothing. Just like any other neighbor. “Coworker” status in this case is irrelevant.

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