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New Etiquette

I had a fun day planned last minute with some Miami girlfriends. Long story, but they were moving, cleaning and the like. I was invited to go along for the ride and hang out by the pool. Delightful.

I planned to wear a mask in an hour long car ride with one GF and maintain my social distancing at all times otherwise. A change of scenery would be nice.

But….we had 2 more Covid cases at work. One is a person I see every day albeit only in passing. I disclosed to my GF. After sleeping on it, she cancelled with me. She was quite apologetic. I reassured her that I was 100% understanding and fully on board with her decision. I didn’t push or question her decision because I don’t want her doing something outside her comfort zone.

Am I disappointed? Of course! It would have been a fun day. Am I upset with her? Not one bit. I get it.

This pandemic has caused a shift in social norms. I have written about my own reluctance to hang out with friends. In my case, my reluctance avoided a day spent with 2 dear friends who had COVID and just didn’t know it at the time. So when my GF un-invites me, I get it. I have been in her shoes. Trust your gut.

I don’t understand people who want to push their agenda on others. I hear/read stories of people being pressured to gather at social events. It’s one thing if it’s your choice, but hopefully societal norms are shifting to allow people to speak up and step back. No more being too nice and accommodating!

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  1. It is nice to not push your agenda on someone and just let it be sometimes. Sometimes you know more is up with a friend than they let you know.

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    • You hit the nail on the head. One friend is struggling with her job search (on Month 8) and the other’s house had caught fire, so she was packing up to move to the first friend’s house. Stress levels were already high. They didn’t need me adding extra drama.

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  2. Throughout this I have tried not to judge what people are comfortable with or uncomfortable with. I flew in early July to visit my daughter and her baby. When I returned, I let everyone know I was less than 2 weeks since flying. I asked one member of my book group that has been meeting socially distanced in a backyard to ask if anyone was uncomfortable with me being there. One person said yes (I didn’t want to know who) so I stayed home. That’s how we’re going to get through this.

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  3. […] wrote about a colleague who has COVID. He has been sick for three weeks. He is in his early 60’s, had a mild heart attack […]


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