I have the opportunity to be really mean. As in cutting, dismissive and outright nasty. Should I take it? The fact that I am writing about this and hesitating to seize the opportunity perhaps gives me my answer. I asked myself my favorite question, “What result do I want from this?” The answer is somewhere along the lines of revenge and Karma having her day. Nothing positive. Nothing good. Just me being petty and nasty. Plus I probably won’t even get to be confrontational and nasty to the evil person himself, perhaps just his partner, who use to have a kind soul.
The kinder one reached out to me via LinkedIn messaging. He congratulated me on my new role (9 months old now, so to me this is old news). He tied my employer to his through various projects the two companies have done together. Good sales technique, however, I have been fully aware of the connections for quite some time. He has no role in these partnership decisions. He mentioned a year-old acquisition (again, old news). Now he wants a phone call. I agreed and said send me an invite, that was yesterday so he is about to lose the two windows I provided just because I want him to feel the scheduling angst. A girl can’t be too available. As I wait, I think about him and his partner.
I first met this kinder guy when he was just out of college and trying to launch. Nice, personable, always asking about my kids and letting me chatter on about them. He worked really hard and grew his career, however, I began hearing things from colleagues about his lack of ethics. Not good things. Then he joined forces with his partner, a man I absolutely despise.
The partner is so sleazy. He slept with my rookie. I had told her never to date colleagues, but she succumbed to his insistent pursuit. Once he had her, he dumped her. I could have told her that, but I’m not her mom. He would then ask about her whenever he saw me. I swear to you it was merely so he could remind me he fucked her. If you saw his smarmy smile when he asked, you would agree.
The partner and I were on a call one day and he didn’t like the news I was delivering, so he proceeded to verbally abuse me. Called me second-rate, compared me to an absolutely horrible person and was absolutely awful. I hung up on him. Nobody likes him. He has no integrity. He’s a sleaze.
Now they want business from my company. Really? I have a mile long list of other options and they were never even a consideration. Yes, they work for a prestigious company. One I worked at for a decade before getting canned. They throw the company’s prestige around, but sometimes you don’t need an elephant to do the job, a mule is just fine or even a donkey.
What will I do when he calls? I don’t know. I will say no thank you, we are happy with our current provider. I will listen, but I will not be swayed. I will do the call so I can say no verbally and not through some LinkedIn messaging. I will be the better person. Sigh. Yes, I will not allow the bitter, angry thoughts to manifest themselves. Nothing good will come of that. Instead, I will write and release it all here. Damn, being the better person sometimes isn’t much fun, but I know I will sleep much better and score some points with Karma. I can always use the bonus points.