I have long believed life is a journey. A long, winding road full of bumps, detours, forks, .hills and valleys.
I spent today reading Sheri Salata’s book, The Beautiful No. It is a quick read. Although I have expressed my reservations about Oprah, Sheri had some good moments that resonated with me. Not enough to buy her $20 workbook, but enough to purchase her $15 book after starting with a library e-book.
One realization I had while reading her book is I figured out what is up with neutral gear in my reset. I need a new map. My map for 2019 was about finding my reset.
To that end, I found a new job, moved to a new city and a new apartment, worked on a new lifestyle of frugality and minimalism, changed my relationship with the Hunter and began working on my health. 2019 has been a year of big changes. I have taken lots of action and big steps, however, I have felt that I have come to an end.
Now that I have achieved so many big things in 2019, I need to pause. It is time to rejoice and celebrate. I took a moment while writing this to let this thought sink in. I haven’t figured out how I will celebrate, perhaps when I see my kids at Christmas I can think of something. One thing I know is that I am very, very grateful for this reset.
It is time to create my 2020 road map for the next phase of my life journey. I think my subconscious has already been preparing for this and that is the underlying cause of my unrest. I am floating in uncharted waters, so I will feel more secure and purposeful if I have a chart or map to provide direction.
One big revelation for my 2020 road map is that it does not contain a single work-related item. Not one. Work doesn’t need to bleed into my personal life any longer. Wow, that’s a wonderful thing.
I am selfishly focused on me and my personal life. That is a first for me. Perhaps my word for 2020 will be “Selfish” or “Self-Centered”.
I like those words. Nobody who knows me would ever use one of those words to describe me. Perhaps that is why they are such great words for me. It is something I need to learn to be/do.
By living alone, I am able to give myself the space to be selfish, to focus on my needs and wants. This weekend I am spending my free time focused on me. Selfish has begun. More to follow.