Ever since my fiasco of an interview with the OppA CEO, I haven’t been feeling good. That eye infection moved on, but then I got some other crud. I think it came from this hussy who SHOOK MY HAND and then told me she had a throat infection. Guess what I have had for the past week — a throat infection.
I don’t know if it combined with the eye infection, but man, I have been under the weather for the past 10 days. Operating at 75%, not sleeping worth a damn (more on that) and just not feeling good in general. Last weekend I spent a day with my BFF and while I had fun, I felt off (sore throat) and was wiped out the next day.
With a modest amount of congestion plus my sore throat, I am apparently adding quite a bit of volume to my snoring. The Hunter has been complaining more than usual and this has lead to me having horrible sleeping habits this week.
I have bursts of bad sleeping habits. I am a recovering Sunday Night Insomniac. During my 40’s I would have Sunday nights where I just didn’t
want to go to bed and would stay up late. Then when I crawled to bed at 1 or 2 am, I would wake my Ex who would get all bitchy, so then I would just stay up virtually all night to avoid that drama.
I have lapsed back into that when the Hunter complained about my snoring. He’s a light sleeper, so it doesn’t take much to wake him up. I have been hanging out downstairs with the ipad and TV — horrible, horrible companions when it comes to sleep. Once again, I justify it by not wanting to wake him.
Then I don’t get enough sleep which leads to a migraine (my Friday treat), not giving myself enough rest to fight my cold and generally contributing to my resting bitch face.
I know what I need to do, but I need to do it. Let me break this down and see how I can fix this:
- Issue #1: the Hunter’s sleeping patterns. This man is an Early Bird/Long Sleeper. He loves about 9 hours and heads to bed around 9:00 – 9:30. He takes a shower around 8:30 and he’s out by 9:00. Sometimes he falls asleep in front of the TV around 8:00. It doesn’t take much for me to wake him up if I come into bed later, then he may gently grumble a bit that I wake him up. I will say that the Kracken gets him up once or twice to go outside, so I’m not the only one waking him up.
- Issue #2: I’m a Pleaser. I try to be considerate and avoid disturbing him. This involves both my snoring and my Bedtime routines I want to do before bed, but can’t if he’s already asleep.
- Issue #3: Stress management. When I am nodding off, I have to stop my brain from racing to my To Do List or my Stress List (things that are concerning me). If I’m alone, I listen to music or a podcast — some voice to focus on other than the one in my head. I will fall asleep in about 15 minutes this way. Listening to my inner voice can keep me up all night. Sigh.
What are my solutions to this: I have thought of a couple of things.
- Do my sleep prep early (wash my face/take a shower or whatever) by 7:30 or so. This will allow me to slip into bed quietly if the Hunter has already gone to sleep, so I’ll be ready and not have that as an avoidance excuse.
- I need to climb into bed at 9:30 and have NO screen time for that 1/2 hour of relaxation before lights out by 10:00. If the Hunter is already asleep, I need to figure out a reading light (perhaps a camping headlamp).
- Maybe I can use the wireless earbuds my son gave me for Xmas so I can listen to something as I go to sleep. The Hunter likes quiet.
- Make sure I’m taking a decongestant, some Vicks and use the snoring nose strips to help minimize my snoring. Losing weight will help this also, but for the short term, I think it’s more of an airflow situation.
Most importantly, I need to use my words and have a chat with the Hunter. We need to figure out a compromise of some form here. I need to stabilize my nighttime routine because it truly impacts my day. In a perfect world, I want to be asleep by 10:00 (yep, I’m an old fart) and up by 6:00 so I have time to exercise and journal in the morning.
He’s heading back from the woods later today, so I MUST chat with him about it today. It’s Sunday and I can’t continue to lose so much sleep. I need to take care of myself first and foremost. (Yes, I have to remind myself that what I need is incredibly important and essential for my happiness — I’m a work in progress).