I’ll light the fire, while you place the flowers in the vase that you bought today.
Our house is a very, very, very fine house with two cats in the yard,
Life used to be so hard,
Now everything is easy ’cause of you and our—
Last week began our search for new digs. The Hunter’s 120-mile daily round trip commute has given us some urgency to figure out a better housing solution. Fortunately my lease is month-2-month so we can be very flexible.
The past week I was laid low by a nasty head cold that made me headachy, cranky and prone to sneezing fits that made me wonder if I was going into cardiac arrest. It was a test to the strength of our relationship that we never bickered, sniped or snapped at one another. The Hunter plied me with wonton soup, gave me medicine and space and let me rest. He later told me that my “sick bitch” face is scary and he did wonder if he was in trouble. I slowly plowed through the week grinding in first gear but on Friday midday I suddenly felt much improved.
I redoubled my efforts to find us some housing options and came up with a variety of places so we could test the waters to figure out what we liked and didn’t like. That night we discussed logistics, criteria and I secretly smiled as the Hunter talked about “our place” and “our furniture”. I am so happy he feels like this is just as much his home as mine. I also enjoyed his commentary of the places I showed him. His criteria is very much in sync with mine, but he is much less forgiving than me.
Saturday dawned with a great start-the-day fuck and I was feeling at the top of my game and in high spirits. The Hunter was literally high which made the sex that much more intense because he started his morning with porn and a toke, then he brought that sexual energy into the bedroom to wake me up. When a man climbs under the covers from the foot of the bed, look out!Delicious.
We then spent about 6 hours looking at places, neighborhoods, his new work location — it was a long day. We discovered a few things: 1) we are picky and want a home, not just a place to live; 2) his work neighborhood is beautiful and I’m trying to figure out if I could be the one that is 60 miles from clients. I really liked the area. 3) our current home is far better than the majority of rentals out there, we are very fortunate 4) we are willing to be patient and not rush this which is good because I think that due to my cash flow situation, I may not be ready until May. 5) we both carefully and thoughtfully listened to the other’s opinions about each place we visited. Neither of us discarded the other’s thoughts — such a refreshing situation.
We came away having struck out in finding a new home, but we can definitely claim a big win on teamwork. It was a great day.