Oh there’s no place like home
For the holidays, ’cause no matter
How far away you roam
If you want
To be happy in a million ways
For the holidays, you can’t beat
Home, sweet home
Just a quick note about this song intro — it was originally intended to be a Thanksgiving song. Since this post is about my upcoming Thanksgiving plans or lack thereof, I thought it was appropriate.
I have been off all the dating websites now since October 22nd, a full three weeks, and my life has settled down immeasurably. Yes, it’s still busy and I’m still trying to juggle perhaps too many men, but the insanity has waned and my head feels clearer. I still have some guys pinging me from before and that’s OK. But I’m ready to settle back with the current crop of 4 and see where they lead.
The holidays are fast approaching and I have to figure out my plans. Thanksgiving could become very interesting very fast. Two of my guys will be without their families. HR will still be in the state, however, he is planning on spending at least part of it with his mom who is in a nursing home. Don Juan’s family is leaving very early that Friday morning to their home country, so they aren’t celebrating the holiday. He’ll stay here while they are home (remember, he commutes and works between two cities). He’ll be joining them a week later, and will be out of the country for all of December. It’s interesting how two AM guys have such dysfunctional family lives that they are spending the holiday alone. Yes, I am taking that as a mild red flag to be aware of.
Prior to learning about these guys’ schedules, Thanksgiving was already a complex logistical time for me. My daughter is bringing her boyfriend home for the first time. He’s never been to our city, so we all want to show him the sights. My son will be home from his first semester away at college. These are key reasons for me to stay close to home. I acceded Thanksgiving to my ex because he is one of four siblings and they all celebrate Thanksgiving together. It’s far more important to me (and my kids) to have my kids spend Thanksgiving with their cousins, aunts and uncles. I am planning a rollicking Friday for all the cousins, friends, etc. to hang out together at a really cool area of town. We’ll be able to spend the day together and the boyfriend will get a real flavor of our town. Yes, I am trying to stay 29 forever and be the popular aunt/adult of the family. This time I swear my liver will not be punished like it was this past weekend.
But Thanksgiving Day is a potential quandary. I have my girlfriend who rescued me last year by taking me out on my first Thanksgiving alone. She may be my first priority in all of this. Then the question becomes do I try to see HR one more time before he heads back home or do I hang out with Don Juan? Too soon to say. I think the answer will be clearer after my upcoming weekend with HR. I am also a bit gun shy about having one of these guys in my place with both my kids in town. My kids could potentially be staying here, and if they aren’t, they oftentimes will just randomly pop over either unannounced or with little notice, which usually I don’t mind. Since I have no idea where they are staying, there is a strong possibility they could be spending those nights with me. Arghhh!!
One thing I have made clear to my daughter and myself – Thanksgiving won’t be spent with my ex and his family. I am done with being tolerated.